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My Story

In 2017, I found myself working full-time, running a private practice part-time, and was trying to start and run two more businesses that my, then, husband dropped in my lap. I was paying half the bills against my own beliefs on the matter; and I was cooking, cleaning, and momming three girls (two biological and one bonus). I was the cheer mom, ballet mom, classroom volunteer mom, and toddler mom. I was active on the ministerial team at my home church traveling along the spiritual beltway each week. I was doing it all. I was exhausted but giving up was not an option. My grandmother didn’t give up. My mother didn’t give up. And marriage and momming are forever. Sacrifice. Right?
My grandfather fell ill, and at any moment we could expect it to be his last. Simultaneously, my then husband wanted a divorce and was telling me I wasn’t enough. With so much on my plate I began dropping balls left and right. I was failing and began to believe that I absolutely was not enough.
The grief was too much to bear, so the therapist (me) decided to go to therapy. I talked, I cried, I lamented. In the midst, my therapist asked me one question, “Who are you?” I was stunned and stuck. I didn’t have an answer. I didn’t know. I had no identity outside of my husband, my kids, my career, and my church. That night, I took to my journal and attempted to write. I had nothing. That was a first. I was saddened.
Despite the brokenness I experienced, I continued my healing journey. And while it was a challenge figuring out who I was, I quickly realized who I was not. Life as I learned it, and was attempting to live it, no longer worked for me. I had to change. I had to unlearn and relearn life as I had never known. I had to learn to be courageous enough to take myself out of “the box” and take the limits off The Creator. It was the only way I would survive.
Present day, I am happy, healthy, and whole. I did my work. I released what could no longer be mine and embraced what was to be. Me. A phenomenal woman, unconventionally.